Turn Down the Volume of Your Inner Critic
Self-criticism might feel like a motivator in the moment, but let’s be honest—it doesn’t have the staying power we need when life throws its next challenge our way. Instead of building us up, that critical voice only grows louder, eroding confidence and leaving us feeling stuck. It’s a loop that never leads to real progress.
Right now, think about a challenge or situation you’re facing. Maybe it’s a tough decision, a personal struggle, or even just a nagging feeling that you’re not doing “enough.” Pay attention to the voice in your head—does it sound supportive, or is it tearing you down?
Now, pause. Imagine your best friend came to you with the exact same problem. What would you say to her? Would you criticize her, or would you lift her up with words of encouragement, compassion, and belief in her strength? Take a moment to journal what you would say to her, and notice how much kinder and more empowering those words feel compared to the ones you’ve been telling yourself.
Here’s the truth: you deserve to treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer your best friend. It’s not about ignoring your struggles—it’s about approaching them with the encouragement you need to move forward.
In your journal, try answering this: What are some ways I can motivate myself when I face challenges? You might not have all the answers right away, and that’s okay. Free-write whatever comes to mind. Let the words flow without judgment.
Then, take it a step further: create a few motivational phrases—affirmations that feel personal and uplifting—and put them somewhere you’ll see them often. Maybe on your bathroom mirror, your desk, or even as a note on your phone. Let them be gentle reminders that you are capable, strong, and worthy of compassion—especially from yourself.
Because at the end of the day, self-kindness isn’t just a nice idea; it’s a powerful tool for building resilience and confidence that lasts.